Is Pregnancy Stressing You Out? Having Sex Will Cure It
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Doesn't that seem like a typical guy's response? We love our men, but they are always in the mood. My husband is ready all of the time.
Beginning pregnant does some weird things to a woman's libido. When a pregnant woman is in the mood, she is in the mood right now and the mood can leave as quickly as it comes. When the mood hits, I want him now! Please be careful of my very sensitive pregnant breasts.
I came across a recent news article on MSNBC.com where the author claims that having sex reduced her stress level. After my husband read the article he suggested that I needed to medicate the stress I was feeling. The mood just wasn't there. That's pregnancy for you dear.
The author, Valerie Frankel, detailed a month long experiment that she and her husband conducted to see if love making reduced their stress levels. They first started out cuddling, holding hands, hugging and kissing. Slowly they ramped it up to full romping in bed during the day time, quickies and longies.
Each time she encountered a stressful situation such as a tight dead line, an unexpected large expense or getting the credit card bill that showed that they over spent they would 'medicate' the stress by having sex.
Interestingly enough, Valerie became hooked on the hook ups. So much so that her husband became concerned that she was becoming 'hooked' on having sex. To the point that her husband decided that she need to 'detox'.
Laura Berman, Ph.D., is the director of the Berman Center for women's sexual health in Chicago. “When a woman is stressed, the hormonal changes in her body trigger a chemical reaction causing sex hormone-binding globulin to bind with testosterone cells, so they're unavailable for libido and sexual response.”
That pretty much sums up my sex drive. I am always tired during the day. I blame it on the fact that I am cut off from coffee. My husband keeps reminding me that it is for the best as I am expecting.
I could go to bed by 9 o'clock after the kids are all tucked way for bed. But nooo… I stay up taking a bath, watching TV until 11 pm. In the mornings I am stressed getting my kids ready for school, dealing with the tattling, occasional fighting and ever so slowly getting ready for school. Trying to keep a relatively clean house before the baby arrives.
Then throw pregnancy into the mix and the sex drive gets really wacked out. Even if my husband made romantic comments when he got home from work, by the time the evening ritual has completed, I am so tired and out of it that sex isn't even on my radar. The poor guy.
Dr. Brody noted that 'self love' does not provide the same level of physical and emotional satisfaction. Physically stimulating it does not have the same effect in lowering blood pressure brought on by stress because different nerves are involved.
Valerie's article gives some very helpful advice for couples, even advice for pregnant women. That I need to consciously set time aside for romantic time with my husband, especially before the baby comes. Romantic time doesn't always have be love making time, it can be spending time cuddling or playing a Wii game together.
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